so you matched at speed dating…now what?
a.k.a. how to turn your match into a date (with message templates that actually work)
As singles event organizers, our absolute favorite thing is the amazing energy at our speed dating events. When we see a room full of singles laughing, chatting, and making real connections, it’s truly magical. ✨
Andddd they work. Our curated speed dating events have an 82% average match rate, meaning most guests leave with at least one match. We’re really proud of that!
Matching is a great start, but knowing how to follow up after a speed dating event is what turns that little spark into a great date… or more. Below are our simple, plug-and-play speed dating follow-up message templates, plus our best tips for moving things forward (We know a thing or two about this 😉).
Speed Dating Follow-Up Message Templates
You’re interested (obv)
You can totally use these as-is, or personalize them to sound more like you:
• “Hey XXX! I really enjoyed our conversation — I’d love to continue it over dinner sometime this week or next. Let me know what day works best for you.”
• “Hi XXX, I loved chatting with you at speed dating. So funny that we both [insert weird commonality or small-world moment]. Want to grab drinks next week? I’m free Mon, Tues, or Thurs night.”
• “Hey! So glad we matched. Are you free this weekend or next to check out that restaurant I told you about?”
For When You’re No Longer Interested
It’s okay to change your mind — just remember that clear, kind, and respectful communication is always the way to go.
• “Hi XXX! It was really nice meeting you. After thinking it over, I don’t feel a romantic connection, but I wanted to let you know. Wishing you the best!”
• “Hey! I enjoyed meeting you, but I don’t think this is the right fit for me. Take care and good luck out there.”
Tips for Following Up After a Chicago Speed Dating Event
Stay open-minded
If you’re on the fence, go ahead and “heart” anyone you’re genuinely curious about at the event — even if they aren’t your usual “type.” Six minutes is enough to feel chemistry, but not enough to know everything, so try not to make assumptions. You never know who might surprise you when you drop the mental checklist! 👀
Communicate clearly
If you’re interested, say so… what have you got to lose? A little confidence and enthusiasm go a long way. Be specific when asking someone out, because clear communication sets positive vibes right from the start. If you’re not interested, share that too — kindly. Let’s make ghosting a thing of the past! 👻
Make a real plan
Aim to reach out within 24 hours of your speed dating event. Offering a couple of days, times, or activities is always appreciated. The two of you matched for a reason, so always be kind, flexible, and responsive. We’re all busy, but giving someone a real chance can lead to something amazing!
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In short: We love confidence. We love clarity. We love flexibility.
Ready to put yourself out there and join us for Chicago’s best speed dating? Find our full calendar of upcoming singles events here.
We’re always here if you need a little guidance. Now go get ’em, you charming human! You’ve got this. 💌
– Penny & Megan
